It is common knowledge that the number of times men have sex is often higher than reality. — It is also often true that women like to downplay the number of times they have had sex.
A good rule of thumb is to divide the number of times a man has had sex by 2 and multiply the number of times a woman has had sex by 2 to get a somewhat realistic number. (smile) — In other words when a woman says she has had 3 intimate encounters it is really twice as high i.e. six (6).
But wouldn’t it be nice for the women to have lots erotic experiences to bring to their current relationship and make their boyfriend happy? Good love-making is not a given, it is learned from lots of experience.
So, why do women artificially deflate their sexual encounters?
The answer is: In your old male dominated society – for at least a 100 years – the men considered women that had sex before marriage as soiled “merchandise”.
However, even today while we live in a modern world with liberating New Age thinking, there are still male feelings of jealousy and insecurity of their woman. This makes men look for women who do not “appear” to like sex with different men – too much. And, women comply by looking shy and innocent to catch their “good man”. (smile)
This is truly a double standard, since even though men do enjoy sex – and are ready for action on short notice – they will prefer their “serious” romantic partner to have little romantic experience. And, it is also not good for women, since they are denying who they really are as physical human beings.
Luckily there is a man – perhaps many years ahead of his time – preaching how women should stop being so guilty and shameful about their sexual desires, and that men should stop calling women “sluts”, just because they enjoy recreational sex.
Watch Johnny Soporno (great name!) in his video from Oslo, Norway. Part of the video is in Norwegian, but Johnny talks in good old American English.
Johnny is my hero! He says both men and women should accept the way they are…
See more information about Johnny Soporno on web site, and watch his totally free videos. He is truly honest and frank speaking.
Is it possible to learn to pickup beautiful girls?
Watch Tyra Banks challenge two professional pickup artists to teach an unskilled man to meet hot women in a park. Normally they charge $3000 for a weekend seminar to teach men to get good with women.
See how they did in this video from YouTube:
Now, you might say this is the subject of learning how to pickup American women, but I say it is a about learning how to get good with women in general.
There is no such thing as a special woman from America and another species of woman from Asia. Both types behave the same way to emotional and physical responses with men.
Just watch the video, and you will see how a shy man went from not getting dates to meeting strangers (read: hot women) in a park and number closing them.
You can read more about the techniques of love systems here. I recommend their eBook for starters – it is only $68, and there is no need to spend $3000 for a weekend seminar like mentioned on the Tyra Banks show:
I find it very interesting to watch all the different forms of scamming that people get into in different low-pay countries, just because they think all men from Western nations are rich.
New Translation Love Scam from China
I will try to report the latest scams in my blog here. But, feel free to send me any email you have with information about new scams, if you see something interesting.
The latest scam from China involves some very innocent looking – but pretty – girls from China.
First they will send you a few simple emails in English, but then quickly try to get you to sign into one of their free membership sites – AsianSweetLove. But, the catch is you must pay money to translate each email to the girl!
This is particularly gross since you can use the free web site from Google Translate that works wonders. If you need to translate any love letters or email in Chinese or Thai for a girl that speaks little English, just use the free Google translate service. It is not a 100% perfect in translation, but it is certainly 95% – or enough to make any girl understand your meaning.
I even use the Google translation web site when I am online chatting with an Asian girl, in real time. The girls are normally very impressed when I send Chinese or Thai sentences over Yahoo! messenger or MSN. (smile)
With this Chinese love-scam it is very possible that no girl is receiving your romantic emails, but this is probably an internet sweat-shop with rows of people hovering over their computers, solely interested in fleecing your Western valet to collect some money.
Be aware and stay away from these web sites. I do not know anything positive – or real love, that comes from this.
However, these girls always look so cute! – I wish they were really available online for chatting and more. So sad, but I guess that is why so many guys get sucked in. (smile)
South Korea just keep pumping out those wonderful looking girls with tight outfits and a nice dance routines. — Here is is a Korean group called WonderGirls, with their song: “Nobody” and their behind the scenes video:
I love the Korean accent. It actually sounds better than the American version, which you can watch below. Not sure why they are trying to translate such a great song. Perhaps they will try blond wigs and blue contact lenses next? … Crazy thought! HA-HA
There are lots of Asian dating web sites, but in my experience, there are only a few dating/social web sites to meet Asian girls, worthy of your attention:
FilipinaHeart.com (dating site; signup is free, but cost money to send message to other non-paying members)
HotOrNot.com (free to post and rate your photos, send messages cost US$8/month)
This is my summary report after having sorted, sifted and chatted with the top (read: most attractive) 500 girls from Philippines, Thailand, China and some other countries in different web sites.
If you are a serious online dater, you want to collect as many pieces of information about their work, education, location, family, height and weight, dating and sexual experiences etc. Believe it or not, some of the girls have zero sexual experience, and are still virgins and will not have sex until they are married!… I am talking from actual experience here, and it may also not be what you are looking for. (smile)
Of course you have to be diplomatic with your “interview” of the girl, as most people do not like to be questioned as if they have just met the police. Try to make the conversation fun and ask “stupid” questions to open her up, for example: “Do you like foreigners?” … “Did you ever try a foreigner boyfriend” … “Why not – are you lesbian? hehe” etc. For me, it has become both an art and science to as quickly as possible extract the information from the girl to determine if she is worthy of my time and effort.
The girls will frequently mention they have no money to pay for internet web cam sessions in an internet shop – or food for their family. Some girls are really clever and have other elaborate scams to extract money from foreigners. The poverty in Philippines is much worse than I expected.
Needless to say: DO NOT EVER SEND MONEY TO SOMEONE YOU HAVE NOT MET. Even if the amount of money requested is small compared to your monthly Western nation income, it will waste your time and leaves a bad feeling when you meet with a girl from another country that will never chat with you again, after she has received your money. I consider my life too short, and I always try to steer my life towards positive experiences with the time I have left on this Earth.
Some profiles are totally fake with girls posting fake photos, height, weight etc. I am amazed at some of the girls who do not just fake the real age, but fake almost all aspects of their profile, such as photos, where they live and work, height, weight etc. Do you really want to date someone who is this careless about their integrity!?
I would say the best two free dating sites in Asia, are at this time:
And again, do not send money to people you have not met, and always ask the girl to verify her identity with a short web cam session. It costs less than US 40 cents to go to an internet web cam shop in the Philippines for an hour of internet chatting.
Do not accept the common excuse of the scammer that there is no internet shop in their city, they want you to send money to buy web cam, or it is not safe to visit the internet shop etc. I have traveled all over the Philippines and there is an internet shop on almost ever street corner in the Philippines.
There are lots of beautiful and sweet (read: low-maintenance) girls in the Philippines, Thailand and other Asian countries. Just be aware and educate yourself a little bit. It will not only save you some money, but will bring your less heart-ache and more of that bliss and spirit of play.
Is there any more to life than to be deeply and really happy? (smile)
Here is my honest and hard-earned conclusion about the Cebuanas.com dating web site – spending many hours every day for a whole month. I regret to say it is not all positive, but I hope my comments will saves you some time in education and money.
The Cebuanas support staff claim of more than 350,000 members is GROSSLY overestimated – maybe by a factor of 10! If you do a “broad” search from the home page on Cebuanas for all registered age 18-30 girls in the last 12 months, you get something like 14,482 members i.e. about 1200 registrations per month. — In contrast MeetAsianBabes.com has more than 5,000 registrations per month and growing.
If you do a search on Cebuanas.com for girls at least 5′4″ tall you get 1916 total members. So with some simple math, you realize that 83% of the Filipinas are less than 5′4″ tall – at least on Cebunas.com. It sucks to meet short girls (5′4″ or less), since I prefer my girlfriends to be at least shoulder height to my own self. I am 6′2″ tall, and that leaves me with 1916 girls to consider. Of course there will be some high quality women out of 1900 girls, but a large percentage of the girls will not be a good match for many other reasons.
This girl's face is used in several fake profiles, including HotOrNot.com and Cebuanas.com
The amount of “web cam models” on Cebuanas is very high – perhaps 25%. Out of the most attractive girls I talked to, I would say 1 out of 4 girls are posting fake profiles or working as agents/promoters to get love-sick Western guys to pay money to see nude Filipinas on web cam. Some guys think this is fun, but I find it repulsive and boring. Someone told me nude dancing on web cams is illegal in the Philippines, and that the police will close down any agency that they can find doing this.
I complained to support at Cebuanas.com about all the professional web cam models, but I am not sure they know what to do about these fake members, promoting sex services. I stopped complaining to the staff at Cebuanas, since they are not only slow to respond to live online message, but I am not sure if they are really doing something about these complaints or not.
Perhaps Cebuanas.com figure a few pretty fake photos will attract new male paying memberships? I do not know; but I do know that the free dating web site MeetAsianBabes.com will delete any members that looks like spam or scammer, with a proprietary pattern recognition algorithmn. MeetAsianBabes.com is 100% free, and there is no monetary benefit for this site by keeping pretty fake profiles.
Out of all the really attractive girls (perhaps 50) – only one girl (but she is still legally married) appears to be similar in real life as the profile photo.
It appears as if most of the pretty girls – and their profiles, have figured out how to take lots of photos, and only pick a couple of the best pretty/sexy photos to post in their profile. It is sometimes a bit of a disappointment to see them on a web cam in real life. When I finally get the girls to chat with me on a web cam, they are not anywhere near the same quality as the girl as posted in the photos. Sometimes it is not even the same girl on the cam as the photo in the profile.
This cam snapshot show a really skinny girl - and not at all like her profile photo.
A large percentage of the girls are jobless and hungry (literally), and are looking for any means to get a stupid lovesick foreigner to send them money. Some of the girls look like they have not eaten a good meal for a long time, with a few girls with really bony arms and skinny faces.
The girls will frequently mention they have no money to pay for internet web cam sessions in an internet shop – or food for their family. Some girls are really clever and have other elaborate scams to extract money from foreigners. The poverty in Philippines is much worse than I expected.
In short, my conclusions about Cebuanas.com is to save your money, and don’t waste your time.
I even cancelled my membership with Cebuanas.com before the end of the 30 days, and they still billed me for another month via PayPal – and ignored my email to rectify the problem. This is really bad customer service, in my experience!
Buyer be aware if you want to try Cebuanas.com, and recommend instead trying some of really good free dating web sites:
Here is just one more reason why we love Thailand so much. It is easy to get a divorce.
It is not hard to get an uncontested divorce in Thailand, but first let me say am not an attorney, and I am not giving legal advice. Here is a company that provides divorce legal services in Thailand for more information.
A good friend of mine told me his experiences when getting a divorce from his Thai wife, at the local government office in Bangkok – also called the Amphur. He said:
I recommend you allow a couple of months of “cooling off” period after separating from your wife. This not only gives you and your wife a chance to settle down and try to work things out, but it will make both parties more able to talk and confront each other – and to go the local government office for a divorce, if need be.
The divorce at the local government office was very straightforward, if you know to avoid the following few snags. We actually had to go to the divorce office about 3 times, before we had all the pieces together. Next time it should be a lot smoother. (smile)
• Witnesses: You need to bring a non-government witness for both the husband and wife to the Amphur. All Thais know where this office is located, in their city or area of Thailand.
• Dual languages: The foreign husband needs to have a Thai and English speaking witness i.e. one person, speaking both Languages. This person cannot be a government employee at the divorce office.
• Marriage ID card: The wife needs to have her pre-marriage ID card changed to Mrs. – before the divorce process can start. Some Thai girls may be reluctant to change their ID card to process a divorce, because the ID card and computer records will not change back to Miss after the divorce. In other words; the Mrs. title stays with the Thai girl on her ID card – for life.
Not sure why, but my ex-wife didn’t like the idea of Mrs. on her ID card.
• Originals: Bring original of all Thai marriage papers. The government office will keep the original marriage papers and not give them back to you. Make color copies or scan the original marriage papers if you need them – before going to the Thai government office.
The government divorce office will give you new colorful original documents declaring you are divorced. It sure beats the dull black and white legal forms in California, USA. But, after the divorce is complete – who really cares about the colors of the documents, right? He-he
• Time: The divorce process from beginning to end – if you have all the pieces as described above – took about 1 hour. We worked with about 3-4 government employees.
• Fees: There were no government fees to be paid in the divorce, so it is quite a deal! In contrast, the fee for processing a marriage (getting married) is 200 baht (about US$6.00).
• Property: Make sure you answer CLEARLY on the Thailand forms that there are no property settlements (car or condo etc.) in the divorce. This may prevent legal action in the future about any property disputes. Get your proper legal counsel if in doubt.
That is it.
If you do these steps and spend about an hour, you are a free man again!
Here is just one more reason why we love Thailand so much. It is easy to get a divorce.
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